Confidence, happiness, and becoming healthy. Many set New Year resolutions which revolve around those three things. We set goals, we break them in a week. It never ends well for anyone. I want to discuss NOT setting resolutions and simply working each day to inspire yourself. Working each day to understand yourself and adapt skills to be the best you. There is not much left to 2017 which is why I challenge you to watch these 8 TED Talks in the first 8 weeks of 2018. I have hand picked (&watched) each to address an area of mental wellness which will (hopefully) inspire you, support you, educate you, and benefit your ability to love yourself for who you are and be the best damn parent of the year!
1. My year of saying yes to everything by Shonda Rhimes. WOW. Just wow. I love her for Greys Anatomy, Scandal, How To Get Away With Murder… like love LOVE. Now even more so. Shonda shares how saying yes became a new way of life for her family. A simple word changed this hard working, single mom, powerful woman’s life and it can changes yours too.
2. Week two, things get a little more stressful because the high of the holidays is over, the kids are back to school, and there is nothing enjoyable about the post holiday bloating from all that good food. How to make stress you friend by Kelly McGonigal is a health psychologist that has realized some of her teachings might not be true. She explained that for so long we are told “Stress is bad”. But “Can changing how you think about stress make you healthier”?
3. The holiday high is gone. Daily schedules are restarting. Work is mundane and sometimes motivation or happiness is lacking after the holidays because lets face it, what do we have to look forward to next? Shawn Achor spoke about The happy secret to better work in an insightful way as to how to change the way we think about happiness in correlation to our work and life. Take a stab at understanding how happiness increases success.
4. If you are like most, sleep was limited during the holidays. Or you were so busy that you hit a wall each night and fell right asleep. Either way, it feels important to highlight why we sleep and what it does for our bodies. What better way to start the beginning of the year than feeling well rested. Russell Fosters will inspire you to take a nap on the weekends and not feel like a grandma for going to bed at 8:30pm because SLEEP IS GOOD!
5. The fifth video I would recommend might be one of my favorites because I am all about anticipation and preparation. Let’s be honest, I am not the most organized, BUT I am working on being mentally and emotionally organized. Sounds weird I know, but by categorizing situations and feelings I am better equipped to handle stressors. To be the best me, I must understand my thoughts and feelings and know how to respond in the most effective and efficient way. Daniel Levitin explains How to stay calm when you know you’ll be stressed out. We know there will be stress in your life almost everyday, even more so if you experience anxiety or depression. We also know that better understanding your thought processes and how to prepare for stress will minimize the aftermath.
6. Ok, so if you are like me, you’ll set a goal to exercise more and eat better. This focus on physical health will dwindle fast. If you are not like me, TEACH ME YOUR WAYS. Seriously, share with us how you stay committed. But what we often don’t set goals for or want to focus on is our mental health. Guy Winch discusses Why we all need to practice emotional first aid. Emotional first aid is the practice of “taking care of our emotions, our minds, and with some diligence we take care of our bodies.”. Mental health is just as important as physical health and sometimes we need a little reminder of that.
7. By now, there is probably something that has occurred for which you placed yourself on the list of mothers that will not win mother of the year. Growing up, little things would happen and my mom would always say “Well, I wont be winning mother of the year!”. It always felt silly to me, but now I understand…the anxiety and competition for being the best mother there is. So much pressure to raise perfect kids and always make the right choices. Show me the book that lists how to achieve it and I’ll make it my Bible. Jennifer Senior explains For parents, happiness is a very high bar. She gives a few ways to set realistic goals based on the idea that our children will be ok as long as we love them.
8. Lastly, The power of vulnerability. Baring or soul, being rejected, sharing new ideas, being intimate, waiting for an important call…we face vulnerability each and every day. As a parent, we are vulnerable to our children. They need us to give them the world and that is no easy task. It is no easy task when we, ourselves, are waiting to receive the world, to understand our world. Facing fears, doing our best, stepping out of our comfort zone. Things to practice each and every day.
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